At counselling in Edinburgh I work with individuals who are experiencing personal difficulties, to help them overcome their problems and to make positive changes to their lives.
The nature of problems I encountered varies, and could include: depression; anxiety; the need to manage harmful emotions and behaviours, or difficulties with coping with traumatic experience and events.
I work with people wanting to leave abusive relationships and coercive control and release traumas from their past. Sometimes this is done with counselling although we will often agree to use some of my other therapies in conjunction with the counselling.
“A talking therapy that involves a trained therapist listening to you and helping you find ways to deal with emotional issues.”
There are therefore a number of aspects to counselling. For example, it is important that the process is about helping you to find ways to deal with your problems, rather than giving advice or telling you what to do.
Counselling is not:
No two people understand the same language in the same way; their understanding will always be linked to their personal experience of the world. The role of the counsellor, therefore, is to help the client to develop their own understanding of their situation.
I enable my client to explore aspects of their life and feelings, by talking openly and freely. Talking like this is rarely possible with family or friends, who are likely to be emotionally involved and have opinions and biases that may affect the discussion. Talking to a counsellor gives clients the opportunity to express difficult feelings such as anger, resentment, guilt and fear in a confidential environment.
I may encourage the client to examine parts of their lives that they may have found difficult or impossible to face before. There may be some exploration of early childhood experiences to throw some light on why an individual reacts or responds in certain ways in given situations. This is often followed by considering ways in which the client may change such behaviours.
Good counselling should reduce the client’s confusion, allowing them to make effective decisions leading to positive changes in their attitude and/or behaviour. The ultimate aim of counselling is to enable the client to make their own choices, reach their own decisions and act upon them.
I do not advise clients, but help them to understand themselves better and find their own ways to cope or to resolve problems.
Counselling typically involves a series of formal sessions at a regular time and place in a private place, where the client and I can talk about the client's issues and feelings.
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